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It takes a village to support a marriage " Less Wrong
1+ hour, 59+ min ago (426+ words) Epistemic status: A hypothesis I want to add your hypothesis space about why divorce rates are up. For people into the literature: how much does this align? For people into testing: Do we see new data anywhere? For everyone: this…...
Clarifying the Darwinian Honeymoon " Less Wrong
2+ week, 52+ min ago (875+ words) Here's what I AM saying but is not my main point: I hoped to convey an additional thing - here's the original post's description of it: I need a shorthand for this vague concept of "runaway civilizational growth, but specifically framed…...
The Weirdness of Dating/Mating: Deep Nonconsent Preference
4+ mon, 3+ week ago (898+ words) Let's go through a few examples, to illustrate what I mean by "deep nonconsent preference, specifically for (typical) women. Generalizing just a little bit beyond rape fantasies: AFAICT, being verbally asked for consent is super-duper a turn off for most…...
Courtship Confusions Post-Slutcon " Less Wrong
6+ mon, 2+ day ago (641+ words) So at slutcon itself, I volunteered for a session in which a few guys would be paired up with women and flirt on stage, with the session moderator giving live feedback and pointers. I was hoping I would finally be…...
Suffering is what makes it special " Less Wrong
6+ mon, 3+ week ago (200+ words) The pattern is the same in both cases: Let's take a look at another case, where we know the final step too, this time using our neat numbered list: I can't help but think that the lab diamonds are seen…...
Co T May Be Highly Informative Despite "Unfaithfulness" [METR] " Less Wrong
9+ mon, 2+ week ago (1786+ words) This is a link-post for METR's Co T May Be Highly Informative Despite "Unfaithfulness. I recommend viewing the post on METR's website, since it contains interactive widgets. 2. We can almost always detect whether a clue was used to solve the…...
Having children is not the most effective way to improve the world. Have them because you want them, not "for impact". " Less Wrong
9+ mon, 2+ week ago (633+ words) First off, every ethical argument for having children is dominated by other options that are more effective." 1) If you're worried about population issues, just donate $10k to bednets. That's roughly the equivalent of two extra children existing in the world." If…...
Having children is a deeply personal choice. Do not use ethical arguments to try to shame people into having them or not having them. " Less Wrong
9+ mon, 2+ week ago (627+ words) First off, every ethical argument for having children is dominated by other options that are more effective." 1) If you're worried about population issues, just donate $10k to bednets. That's roughly the equivalent of two extra children existing in the world." If…...
A Self-Dialogue on The Value Proposition of Romantic Relationships " Less Wrong
9+ mon, 2+ week ago (1055+ words) And I do have various signs that I'm still missing something big in a general cluster to which this topic belongs, so it seems worth digging into. Voice 2: Ok, so, let's start with a standard hypothetical. I'll use Falkovich's wording…...
It's not about the sex: a moral restoration response to Trumpism " Less Wrong
9+ mon, 3+ week ago (1684+ words) Published on August 5, 2025 6: 30 PM GMTThe Affair Linda discovers evidence that her faithful spouse of many years, Mike, has engaged in sexual infidelity. When she initially confronts him, Mike contritely assures Linda that there was only one, fleeting indiscretion which will…...