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Starting a Family: If Not Now, Then When?
3+ hour, 12+ min ago (282+ words) Posted April 9, 2026 | Reviewed by Michelle Quirk Nowhere is this more apparent than in deciding when to start a family: Delay until you are stable, but don't delay too long; be thoughtful and intentional, but don't miss your window. As a…...
The Enduring Power of the Anti-mother
3+ day, 6+ hour ago (400+ words) Posted April 6, 2026 | Reviewed by Michelle Quirk In one of the lesser-known but truly scary parts of Bram Stoker's classic book Dracula, we hear reports of a woman stalking the night and attacking children. They call her the "Bloofer Lady." It…...
When the Body Heals: Recovery From Relational Stress
5+ day, 2+ hour ago (213+ words) Updated April 4, 2026 | Reviewed by Margaret Foley van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking. Sternberg, E. M. (2001). The Balance Within: The Science Connecting Health and Emotions. W. H. Freeman. Segerstrom, S. C. , & Miller, G. E. (2004). Psychological stress and…...
How "Supercommunicators" Make Conversations Work
5+ day, 19+ hour ago (412+ words) Posted April 3, 2026 | Reviewed by Monica Vilhauer Ph. D. At the heart of Supercommunicators is a basic question: What kind of conversation am I having? According to Duhigg, most communication problems don't stem from a lack of intelligence or good intentions. They…...
The Dangers of 'Tolyamory' in a Relationship
5+ day, 5+ hour ago (402+ words) Posted April 4, 2026 | Reviewed by Margaret Foley As Billie Holiday famously sang, "I'll get by as long as I have you." But should that apply to "tolyamory"? Tolyamory is a portmanteau of "tolerate" and "polyamory," where you know that your partner…...
Motherhood Feels Like a PR Job. I'm Opting Out.
1+ week, 2+ day ago (1153+ words) Updated April 4, 2026 | Reviewed by Lybi Ma I recently sat with a group of middle school moms who chatted about their kids. Superlatives only. No bloopers allowed. "Science is too simple for Mark," one said. "I squeezed in a tutor." Another…...
When Your Partner Doesn't Share Your Spiritual Path
6+ day, 20+ hour ago (346+ words) Posted April 2, 2026 | Reviewed by Ekua Hagan Mark Matousek: A lot of spiritual practitioners are involved with people who don't share their passion for self-realization. How do you recommend navigating "mixed marriages" of this kind? MM: Say more about the benefits of…...
2 Reasons Why Happy Relationships Can Feel Boring
1+ week, 5+ hour ago (382+ words) Posted April 2, 2026 | Reviewed by Michelle Quirk People often carry implicit biases about what makes relationships "feel alive." Movies, media, and cultural narratives, for instance, often romanticize volatile, unpredictable partners'the moody, passionate, spontaneous ones that are a little hard to read....
Why Behavior Change Alone Won't Fix Your Relationship
1+ week, 1+ day ago (260+ words) Posted April 1, 2026 | Reviewed by Davia Sills If you go to a behavioral couples therapist, you can expect to leave with communication tools such as "I" statements, time-outs, and active listening. Behavioral therapy emphasizes the role of environmental factors'rewards, punishments, and…...
What 'I Need Space' Actually Means in a Relationship
1+ week, 1+ day ago (188+ words) Posted April 1, 2026 | Reviewed by Lybi Ma While avoidance is not always the most effective long-term strategy, it often emerges from a desire to preserve connection rather than sever it. Psychology also draws a clear distinction between temporary space and chronic…...